Crazywheels,
Glad to see you still visit.
As far as I can tell, no one is jumping down your throat on purpose. If you feel like that, they don't mean it. Xeris apologized without being asked to by anyone and Trenchcart is right, for some of the people here english is not a first language so what they say might be too direct but they mean no harm. I have not seen anyone hold a grudge here.
And I know that their english is better than my version of their language.
Shark is from France, so I figure we are lucky that there is english in this forum (and his games) at all. I have been coming here for many years and I have never seen anyone treated badly on purpose.